Unfortuitously, our tradition is confusing what exactly is alpha along with its contrary: being demanding, controlling and disagreeable.
Bullies aren’t alpha. Bullies are gents and ladies who will be deeply afraid regarding the inside, so they take a look at absolutely nothing to get a grip on other individuals (even when this means through fear, intimidation, etc. )
For those who have those kinds of faculties, you’re just planning to attract 2 kinds of individuals:
- those who don’t actually worry about you, so that they don’t actually care the way you operate… (a.k.a. Emotionally unavailable)
- Aimless, spineless individuals who co-dependently need you to get a handle on them.
That you are attracting emotionally unavailable men to you, I suspect it could have to do with some of these behaviors if you feel. The undoubtedly alpha part of you is very good.
For those who have any habits that may be construed as bullying, demanding, disagreeable or controlling, then you’ll do most readily useful to lay them to sleep.
You could have control without having to be managing. It is possible to achieve the agreements you would like without the need to be disagreeable. You’ll have your desires came across without demanding them. More